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For couples that want a LEGENDARY Relationship while raising kids!
The Miracle Morning for Couples 👇
We've all heard of the Oxygen Mask Theory - the id We've all heard of the Oxygen Mask Theory - the idea that we need to take care of ourselves before we can truly take care of others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While this quote will make most parents chuckle, the truth behind the joke is actually quite ugly, especially if we don't take the time to love ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As parents, we often become selfless beings to give everything we possibly can to our children.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But it cannot be at the sacrifice of ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Cut the "quantity time" and instead create "quality time" for them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even in the Salazar Casa, we know when we're not practicing great self-care. We feel more grumpy, resentful, and worse still - we can see our health begin to backslide. Stress and anxiety in the house aren't good for anyone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🎯One thing we HAVE to remind each other is that taking care of ourselves IS taking care of them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sit with your spouse and talk about the needs and desires of self-care. Put it in the family calendar. Let go of the guilt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Taking time for you so you can make the best of the time for them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And tell your children. Tell them that taking care of yourself helps you take better care of them. You will plant the seeds of self-care and self-love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Don't let this quote be your reality. Laugh for a moment and then set off on a new path, giving to yourself so that we can bring the best of us to our kids.
When it comes to the education of our daughters, w When it comes to the education of our daughters, we have tried just about all of the options. - They’ve been in public schools, private schools, homeschooled, charters, and now have them at an Acton Academy @actonplacer. - We know - it sounds a bit crazy. We continue to pivot, research different options, and explore opportunities. It’s a big part of our family’s journey. - 💡But here are the things we’ve learned along the way: 🎯We need to have continuous conversations about education for us to create a plan for their learning development. We stay CURIOUS. 🎯Moving them around to try different things doesn’t “mess them up”. In fact, we’ve found them to become more adaptable by getting out of their comfort zones to doing new things. 🎯Allowing them a say in how they learn or receive education goes a long way in generating success. They feel they have ownership over their journey. In fact, the very reason they are at the school they are now is because they ASKED us to let them give it a try. 🎯Letting them find their passions on their own, with us supporting and encouraging those passions - not forcing our own agendas onto them. 🎯That - in the words of Yoda - “The greatest teacher, FAILURE is.” 🎯No matter where they learn, we HAVE to be involved. We can’t stress enough that parents need to be involved in the education of their children. We must help and inspire them to achieve their goals and dreams. 🎯Sharing with them that self-awareness and self/relationship management is just as important (or even more important) as math, reading, etc. 🎯Sharing with them the importance of a growth mindset, and that having the courage to challenge themselves with something that is difficult and failing (which is really learning) is better than achieving 100% on a math test that was too easy. 🎯That PLAY and FUN is an important part of their learning journey. … and we’ll probably continue to pivot, re-evaluate, try things, learn, and grow as a family through this adventure for a long time coming. - - 📷: @melissagoodlandphoto
It's funny - the things that frustrate us the most It's funny - the things that frustrate us the most about our daughters are the things they do that they learned from US!😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No joke - it’s like a mirror. Except like a distorted funhouse mirror… minus the “fun”. 🤡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Realizing this creates the opportunity to let go of that trigger of frustration, step outside ourselves, and learn.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If the behavior is truly something that we want to mitigate, one of the first steps to success is admitting that we modeled it for them. Accepting and feeling into this helps us create a course of action that is more kind, loving, and well… easier for them to hear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we admit to them that this is something that we/I need to work on as well, we can become a team in doing better WITH them… that they aren’t alone on the journey. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We even find ways to hold each other accountable and celebrate the victories of growing and getting better.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💡What are some things your kids do that drive you crazy? Did they learn any of these things from you? If so (and you want to change the behavior), what things can you do in order to encourage them and YOURSELF to try something different? How you can collaborate WITH them so that the family grows together?
What does a legendary relationship mean to you?⠀ What does a legendary relationship mean to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For us, a legendary relationship was feeling madly in love, having fun together, laughing a lot, feeling like we could safely talk about anything, feeling free to be ourselves, and enjoying a great sex life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Becoming legendary surely wasn't an easy task, but the obsessive dedication of doing the right things quickly yielded promising results. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We have gone from one extreme of almost divorcing to the other extreme of being madly in love. Our relationship is now on fire. Things are now clicking. And in the moments when things aren’t clicking, we’ve developed the emotional intelligence and harnessed the relationship skills to get it clicking again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We have continued to study relationships and success. We read a lot of books (like, a lot) and have become quite obsessed with implementing tools and resources through the lens of relationship improvement. We try anything and everything. We have become relationship guinea pigs. We extensively examine the things that are working for us because we want to both understand the “why” behind them and challenge our beliefs in what makes them work. We wanted to study the science of it all. Is this something that could work only for us, or was this something that could work for other people?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This approach has helped us tremendously, and we hope it has helped other couples, too.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now if only we could figure it all out to create "legendary parenting". 🤔😂⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stay tuned! Time to go into the lab and be guinea pigs here, too! 😉⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 📷: @melissagoodlandphoto
John Maxwell - when talking simply about business John Maxwell - when talking simply about business - has provided so many quotes for us that even apply to our marriage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This one here rings so true for us. This idea was one of the single-most "a-ha's" we had when we understood the new path we needed to be on to make sure our nearly-failed marriage didn't experience the same complacency it did before.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we were disconnected, we constantly tried to re-connect by putting bandaids on the problems. We kept trying to fix the broken things... the weaknesses in our marriage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we decided to lean into each other's strengths - that's when everything changed. This idea helped propel us past the starting line. This idea is what laid the groundwork to cast the vision we desired for our marriage. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We decided to use the best of what each of us could bring to the relationship to create the magical connection we have today.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even on the tough days, we feel "equipped" to conquer the trials and tribulations that life and parenthood bring us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you want to know more about how you can do this, too - pick up a copy of the book we co-authored with @halelrod and @honoree - The Miracle Morning for Couples at your nearest online Amazon app or website... or go to our linktree in our bio. There's a link there, too!
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For couples that want a LEGENDARY Relationship while raising kids!
The Miracle Morning for Couples 👇
We've all heard of the Oxygen Mask Theory - the id We've all heard of the Oxygen Mask Theory - the idea that we need to take care of ourselves before we can truly take care of others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While this quote will make most parents chuckle, the truth behind the joke is actually quite ugly, especially if we don't take the time to love ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As parents, we often become selfless beings to give everything we possibly can to our children.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But it cannot be at the sacrifice of ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Cut the "quantity time" and instead create "quality time" for them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even in the Salazar Casa, we know when we're not practicing great self-care. We feel more grumpy, resentful, and worse still - we can see our health begin to backslide. Stress and anxiety in the house aren't good for anyone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🎯One thing we HAVE to remind each other is that taking care of ourselves IS taking care of them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sit with your spouse and talk about the needs and desires of self-care. Put it in the family calendar. Let go of the guilt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Taking time for you so you can make the best of the time for them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And tell your children. Tell them that taking care of yourself helps you take better care of them. You will plant the seeds of self-care and self-love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Don't let this quote be your reality. Laugh for a moment and then set off on a new path, giving to yourself so that we can bring the best of us to our kids.
When it comes to the education of our daughters, w When it comes to the education of our daughters, we have tried just about all of the options. - They’ve been in public schools, private schools, homeschooled, charters, and now have them at an Acton Academy @actonplacer. - We know - it sounds a bit crazy. We continue to pivot, research different options, and explore opportunities. It’s a big part of our family’s journey. - 💡But here are the things we’ve learned along the way: 🎯We need to have continuous conversations about education for us to create a plan for their learning development. We stay CURIOUS. 🎯Moving them around to try different things doesn’t “mess them up”. In fact, we’ve found them to become more adaptable by getting out of their comfort zones to doing new things. 🎯Allowing them a say in how they learn or receive education goes a long way in generating success. They feel they have ownership over their journey. In fact, the very reason they are at the school they are now is because they ASKED us to let them give it a try. 🎯Letting them find their passions on their own, with us supporting and encouraging those passions - not forcing our own agendas onto them. 🎯That - in the words of Yoda - “The greatest teacher, FAILURE is.” 🎯No matter where they learn, we HAVE to be involved. We can’t stress enough that parents need to be involved in the education of their children. We must help and inspire them to achieve their goals and dreams. 🎯Sharing with them that self-awareness and self/relationship management is just as important (or even more important) as math, reading, etc. 🎯Sharing with them the importance of a growth mindset, and that having the courage to challenge themselves with something that is difficult and failing (which is really learning) is better than achieving 100% on a math test that was too easy. 🎯That PLAY and FUN is an important part of their learning journey. … and we’ll probably continue to pivot, re-evaluate, try things, learn, and grow as a family through this adventure for a long time coming. - - 📷: @melissagoodlandphoto
It's funny - the things that frustrate us the most It's funny - the things that frustrate us the most about our daughters are the things they do that they learned from US!😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No joke - it’s like a mirror. Except like a distorted funhouse mirror… minus the “fun”. 🤡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Realizing this creates the opportunity to let go of that trigger of frustration, step outside ourselves, and learn.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If the behavior is truly something that we want to mitigate, one of the first steps to success is admitting that we modeled it for them. Accepting and feeling into this helps us create a course of action that is more kind, loving, and well… easier for them to hear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we admit to them that this is something that we/I need to work on as well, we can become a team in doing better WITH them… that they aren’t alone on the journey. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We even find ways to hold each other accountable and celebrate the victories of growing and getting better.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💡What are some things your kids do that drive you crazy? Did they learn any of these things from you? If so (and you want to change the behavior), what things can you do in order to encourage them and YOURSELF to try something different? How you can collaborate WITH them so that the family grows together?
What does a legendary relationship mean to you?⠀ What does a legendary relationship mean to you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For us, a legendary relationship was feeling madly in love, having fun together, laughing a lot, feeling like we could safely talk about anything, feeling free to be ourselves, and enjoying a great sex life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Becoming legendary surely wasn't an easy task, but the obsessive dedication of doing the right things quickly yielded promising results. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We have gone from one extreme of almost divorcing to the other extreme of being madly in love. Our relationship is now on fire. Things are now clicking. And in the moments when things aren’t clicking, we’ve developed the emotional intelligence and harnessed the relationship skills to get it clicking again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We have continued to study relationships and success. We read a lot of books (like, a lot) and have become quite obsessed with implementing tools and resources through the lens of relationship improvement. We try anything and everything. We have become relationship guinea pigs. We extensively examine the things that are working for us because we want to both understand the “why” behind them and challenge our beliefs in what makes them work. We wanted to study the science of it all. Is this something that could work only for us, or was this something that could work for other people?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This approach has helped us tremendously, and we hope it has helped other couples, too.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now if only we could figure it all out to create "legendary parenting". 🤔😂⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stay tuned! Time to go into the lab and be guinea pigs here, too! 😉⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 📷: @melissagoodlandphoto
John Maxwell - when talking simply about business John Maxwell - when talking simply about business - has provided so many quotes for us that even apply to our marriage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This one here rings so true for us. This idea was one of the single-most "a-ha's" we had when we understood the new path we needed to be on to make sure our nearly-failed marriage didn't experience the same complacency it did before.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we were disconnected, we constantly tried to re-connect by putting bandaids on the problems. We kept trying to fix the broken things... the weaknesses in our marriage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we decided to lean into each other's strengths - that's when everything changed. This idea helped propel us past the starting line. This idea is what laid the groundwork to cast the vision we desired for our marriage. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We decided to use the best of what each of us could bring to the relationship to create the magical connection we have today.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even on the tough days, we feel "equipped" to conquer the trials and tribulations that life and parenthood bring us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you want to know more about how you can do this, too - pick up a copy of the book we co-authored with @halelrod and @honoree - The Miracle Morning for Couples at your nearest online Amazon app or website... or go to our linktree in our bio. There's a link there, too!
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